In this speech, he gave an example of how he was a good listener and a good relator by how he would tell his fiance, the “typical woman,” that she is not fat when she is in those “moods” that “all women have.” Can we please stop and look at this?
First, and foremost, there is NO TYPICAL WOMAN! In fact, there is no typical person at all. Each person has his/her own conceptualization faculties and is an individual with their own strengths and weaknesses. To declare that any behavior is “typical” to gender (or color, race, etc..) is to deny that which it is to be human, to deny reason by making the dynamic conceptualization of the human mind into a static “oh, this is how everyone is.”
Secondly, this phenomenom of “do I look fat” is not just with “women.” I can testify that I have heard those words come out of many people’s mouth who are not female, including myself. Being a woman does not make one “moody” or “emotional.” These stigmas set by our society are hindering the ability for people to grow individually and have a real identity.
To be a person, you do not need to identify with a group. You need only identify with yourself. Have your own beliefs and values, have your own desires, have your own personality, and above all, have your own thoughts!