Uncouth PerspectivesNot on the rug, man.

Be honest.  Say what you feel.  Do not hold back.

Never open. Never true. Never feeling.

When are we going to stop? Why is this even necessary?

Stop.

Let’s start over.

How about a compliment? How about trying to say what you really mean?

“You know, that really doesn’t suit you.”

“You are a really good person…”

“I’m really infatuated with you.”

But, alas, no. We fail to tell the people who we care about the most what we really feel. Or for that matter, people we hardly know. I was talking with Seana again last night. We were talking about friendship and how a true friend will tell you when some type of clothing does not look good on you. And vice versa.

And never a compliment for people. We expect good and anticipate the worst. Unless something is fantastic, we never say so. If something is good, or even great, we just go “oh, okay, that is how it is supposed to be.” Not a “hey, that’s really cool” or “good job!” or “you look great.”

And, forget talking about relationships. So many people get infatuated (and let’s call it what it really is…not love or whatever) with a lot of people, but never say anything. They sit, paralyzed in fear, suspense, self hate, or even bound by rules, and never say anything. They sit and seethe with animosity towards themselves and others… and are never happy. What about fear of rejection you ask me? Perhaps if you are infatuated with the wrong people, you need rejection. It might just put you on the right path.

It all comes down to a couple of things I harp about. You have to have self worth to be able to truly appreciate other people and what they have to offer.

You have to be able to communicate. Say what you want and maybe you will get it.