Uncouth PerspectivesNot on the rug, man.

Even the strongest person, will, at some point, need someone to harbor over them like a twisted aunt. Perhaps because of sickness, or a hard day, or something. It is nice to occasionally have someone rub your back, fix a meal, and snuggle and watch a movie with… all while you sit and veggitate.

And it’s not shamelfull to ASK for this.

It is kind of sad that generally, though, one of two things happen in relationships. Either one person expects to ALWAYS be pampered (and generally doesn’t communicate it), or doesn’t let their partner know when it’s pamper time, and they get all frustrated and upset.

Both of these are affected by communication. The former is generally a lack of understanding of the relationship and the boundaries, and the latter is, obviously, from just lack of saying what you would like.

There is this horrid misconception, especially with relationships, that you can’t actually say what you want. Because, there is fear in relationships (that generally comes from a lack of communication), or there is the possability that you might not get what you want (oh no! The horror), or there is the intent to not lay a burden on your partner… or whatever.

I know I’ve rambled quite a bit today, but today was a “pamper me” day, and I didn’t really have anyone to pamper me. And so, I want all of you that DO to not be afraid to get it when you need it.

I admire their ability and wish I could be as good as the rest of society. I have taken it upon myself to make another installment to Uncouth’s driving guide (see The Uncouth Guide to SUV’s) to help those of use who wish to be better driver’s… like the average person.

Remember, this is a race. And you’ve got to be number one.

Unless, of course, you know you’re not in the race. Then drive 20 miles slower than anyone else, even if this makes you go in reverse.

If you see a sign telling you lanes are closed ahead… ignore it.

If you see lights, cones, flares, or anything else directing you to change lanes… ignore them.

As you are merging, do not use your turn signals. Everyone can tell you’re trying to get over. Duh.

If someone is trying to merge into your lane, don’t let them in. See rule #1.

If someone is merging with a turn signal, DEFINITETLY don’t let them in. And tell that jackass that communication is not allowed.

If traffic starts to slow, find any way to get ahead, including the shoulder or lanes of oncoming traffic.

If that traffic is being caused by an accident, road work, or anything else worth watching, fight as hard as you can to get ahead (see rule #1), and then stop to watch the show.

What’s going on behind you doesn’t matter.

What’s going on in front of you doesn’t matter.

What’s going on to the side of you doesn’t matter.

What is going on INSIDE is what is important. Did a phone just ring?

If you’re in stopped traffic and a lane starts to move, jump over as quick as you can. No one else will do that…

Make sure to pull into the appropriate lane for a turn or offramp at the last possible moment…

Remember… this is only a guide. With merging, only the winner SURVIVES!

DUM DUM DUM…

Yes, I am going to cross into some of the forbidden territory! I am going to talk about horrible, terrible things! I am going to talk about something that is denied, fought, and never talked about…

AGE!

So what?!

I sat there and watched this add and thought, “so what?” People age. It happens. I know it is not a comforting though to think, “Hey, I’m getting older. My body is going to stop working. I’m going to die.” Does that mean that life is less enjoyable, though? Does that mean less opportunities to pursue happiness?

No! It only means that you get older. And, sadly, I don’t even think that is on the minds of a lot of people who worry about the physical appearance of their age. Because, ageing is not “pretty.” You can’t have wrinkles, or gray hair, or a balding head. That’s no allowed. That’s not beauty. That’s not… natural.

Well, personally, I’m done with it. Beauty is not a smooth face, a slim body, and a large cup size. Beauty is not stylish hair, a nice scent, and a chisled chest. Beauty is a person, full of life, living, beliefs and values. Beauty is someone who looks death in the face and says, “We’re going to meet. And I don’t like that. But I’m going to live every moment I can until that day.” Beauty is a lot of things.. and yes, physical things ARE a part of that. But, not all of it.

I can say this personally. Some people freak out at their first sign of gray hair. I started getting my first gray hair when I was eighteen. My hairline IS going away. I am even getting some wrinkles under my eyes. Am I worried? Nope, and neither should you.

Life is only worth living if you honestly live it. Don’t worry about getting old, don’t worry about how someone looks, don’t worry about your gray hair, don’t worry about your slowly growing belly…

Worry about living. Worry about being happy.

Actually, don’t worry. Just do it.

When someone is a good person, or a wonderful talent at something, or can speak their mind very well, or whatever it is, there will probably always be people who will, in a sense, worship that person. In their mind, that person is perfect, infallible, and an examples to “the rest of us.” And this makes life for these people neigh impossible. Because, they are EXPECTED to be perfect.

And that, as we all know, is not possible. No one will be exempt from making mistakes. Because, no one knows everything or understands everything without learning and growing and experiencing. And because this person has something to offer, you should be able to accept and take what they have with arms wide open. And do not make them into a god in your mind, because they WILL disappoint you at some time.

I also, oddly, speak from person experience. There are (very oddly) quite a few people who have this syndrome going with me. They think I am some marvellous, perfect, amazing, godlike person. Yeah, you got me? I don’t understand it. What I do understand, however, is that I make mistakes. The difference with myself and a lot of others, is I move on and learn from my mistakes. It’s not that I DON’T make mistakes, it is that I learn how to better not make them, or more accurately, how to do better. What happens, though, for these people if I make mistakes, is their image of me shatters. And a part of their world comes crumbling down. And who gets the blame? Me.

I get blamed for their inability to properly judge me. I get blamed for making a mistake. I get blamed for being me. Well, sorry, if my words had be listened to, it would be known that I am quite aware of a lot of the things wrong with me, and I also talk about learning and growing from mistakes… and accepting others in their failures to help them grow. So, don’t idolize me. Don’t idolize others.

Learn, that I am not your god.

Learn, to understand and to see another’s beliefs and values.

Learn, to accept someone if they HAVE failed, but they have grown from it.

Learn, that people DO make mistakes. It is only when they have done something with malicious intent or, sadly, the refuse to grow and learn and continue to repeat their mistake, that it becomes a problem.

There is a great movie about a man with a message who was idolized, and then when found not perfect, was punished. It’s called “Jesus Christ Superstar.” Go watch it.

One true love,

is all they search for.

So lost in finding romance

they’ve lost themselves…

Or, sadly, just never searched.

I am lonely,

but not alone.

I often dream of snuggling,

the smell of hair, and the touch of skin.

I crave a mind

With whom I can share,

teach,

and learn.

But, my life,

it does not revolve around this.

I have beliefs, values … goals.

In essence, my life.

I need no one to complete me.

I need no one to control me.

I need no one to control.

I just need someone to listen.

Someone to hold

And someone to care.

I’m just going to try and sort through my thoughts, since I cannot seem to do that and get something written.

People keep telling me that they love my writing. That it has life, and feeling, and spirit. I really don’t understand this.. but then again, I only see what can be better in my writing, not how it is. I never like my writing after I write it. For a while, anyways. I was reading through some of my old rants and honestly.. I was a little impressed. Hehe. Some of those are actually pretty good.

I don’t like how friendly social interaction is almost always connotated as flirting and hitting on people. Like today. I was being friendly with the coffee girl. Granted, she was very attractive, but was I talking to her because of that? No! It was because she obviously found my obnoxious behavior at least half way entertaining, and therefore we had a common connection. That’s how friends are made. And there is no reason for people to not be friendly to each other. Kate told me afterwards that she probably thought I was flirting with her. Just being friendly … as if I knew real flirting if I saw it. Heh. Also, in a conversation about people having self confidence and looking people in the eye.. a female friend of mine said, “And, I guess I need to do more of that. The problem is that when I look guy’s in the eye, they almost always take it to be a come on.” PLEASE! This is sick. Are people out there so desperate for unnecessary relationships that they need to jump on any person who will even look at them?! Are we so far gone socially that any interaction that is no stooped in self hate and zero self confidence is considered coming on to another person. I am sick and tired of it. Personally, I want to meet people and get to know HIM/HER.. their beliefs and values.. who they are. Not how well they can pick out their clothing.. or how large their breasts are (Yeah, there’s a real determining factor in a person and the possibilities of a relationship.)

I actually started to write a poem about people who get into relationships for self hate reasons. I doubt I’ll finish it, so I’m just going to post it. (For those of you who do not know me very well, I don’t write that many poems.)

“Complete”

I need your lies

All of your spite

Everything worthless

Just like me

Crawl down my hole

See me shiver

I’m still bleeding

Make it hurt

Feed me scorn

Be so cruel

Damage my mind

Torture my soul

I need you

To make me complete

Because I am nothing

Without your hate

Isaac S.

07-19-01

As for me. I’ll have self worth. I’ll have real friends. I’ll treat people like people. I’ll get into real relationships.

And, hell, I’ll even be happy.

You can do it, too.

Me ogre, big and bad… all alone, me very sad.

Location: Huntington Beach, CA

Radius: 20 miles

Seeking: Woman.

Height: 6’5″

Weight: 230 lbs

Sex: Male

Smoke: No.

Drugs: No.

Drink: No.

Sign: Libra

Religion: Sigh. Atheist.

About myself: I’d rather you just read the website, that is kind of what it is there for. However, I suppose, I must say this. I have a strong opinion on almost everything. I like parks. I drink mainly water. I don’t like people who can’t spell my name, nor take time to read my website. I also treat people like people. I listen, I care, I understand.. and I hold accountability. I’ve been told I’m “brutally honest” .. I’ll go with just, I say things the way I see them. It’s just the way they are. Read the website, you’ll see.

My views on relationships: People are people. They should be judged on merit, they should be judged on who they are, not what they are. Physical follows the mental. I’d rather talk about beliefs and values than stare at someone’s chest. I’d rather talk to a person than look at a body. It begins with being a person and ends with expressing the relationship. Too many people hold that you reach for the physical and you force the mental. I’d rather have the mental and gain the physical.

Music: They Might Be Giants is my favorite, after that everything is open. I ran music stores for four years, I’ve heard everything. However, let’s not put it into a box. “Hey, I listen to metal!” …. Because you’ll hear a classical piece you like, but might even shy away from it, because you’re such a metalhead. Whatever. I’ll listen to good music and share it with those who will listen.

“Dream Date”: Being with a person… ? Why do you have to seek the perfect place, and the perfect time, with the perfect sequences. It’s not going to happen. I’d rather strive to have a connection with someone and enjoy being with them. It’s about the person and not the place, or thing, or whatever. Surprise me and I’ll surprise you.

Hobbies: Reading, writing, philosophy, thinking, debating, watching movies, reading tarot cards (long story…), acting, public speaking, making a fool out of myself… and whatever else comes a long. It’s life–I live it.

My perfect partner: Anyone! Everyone has something to offer and I’m not going to characterize things. It certainly is not physical (blonde hair, green eyes, etc.), because that doesn’t matter. It’s all about beliefs and values and mental connections. Be my friend and let’s see. Oh, yeah, back massages in return are a plus.

Anyways.

This is the end of “Government Paranoia Week.” I hope you have enjoyed our first themed week, and I hope you have learned a little more about yourself, your government, and/or your expectations.

I know this is much more of a commentary, but it is important. In my beginning rant, I said a couple of things about “so what.” I want to make myself very clear. The government HAS stepped beyond it’s boundaries. I am not a super conspiracy theorists, like some out there, but I do believe that we have let the government become a monster. Regulation has become something obscene and people actually WANT it. Aimee sent me a rant I chose not to post on government spying and regulation, and I want to give you a link she sent with it about banking regulations…

http://conspiracies.about.com/library/weekly/aa013199.htm

People yammer and complain about how bad capitalism is. A piece of information. We are not in a capitalist environment. To be truly capitalist, it needs to be laissez-faire… no government involved. The government regulation has helped make things where they are. Granted, government regulation has helped in a lot of ways. But, did we need the government to do it? People place so little faith in themselves, and in others, that they refuse to trust or work together. Here is the bottom line… if a job or situation is bad, you find another. In a true capitalist environment, there will always be someone or something better, especially if the someone or something you are dealing with is bad or unscrupulous.

We are consumers. We live in a consumerist environment. Do not be fooled.

And, hey, fix my damn roads.

(I actually just read something interesting. I found out that most, if not all, road repair is payed directly by home and property owners in the form of special taxes and assessments. I’m not very happy about this … ESPECIALLY since are roads are still horrid.)

I am only going to scratch the surface of what I want to say here, given the hour and whatnot.

This quote is taken from my real estate studies, and is essentially talking about the liability of someone who hires an agent to do a job.

I have a couple of different approaches and things to say on this. They are going to be fast and furious, but I want to get some responses, so I’m purposefully leaving them that way.

1) Since when does reason and logic (REALITY) not apply to business and society? And when did we let that happen? In doing some of my business classes, I have come across the theories of ethics being separate from business, and I must confess and I am disgusted and humored at the same time. Reality, is reality, no matter what context it is in.

2) The government is not this big massive entity that lives in it’s own realm with it’s own rules. It is a collection of individual representatives of the population (the individuals) of the United States of America. We elect them. They represent us. They act for us. By the context of that quote and, really, are not we, then, responsible for letting them get out of control? If the government is this big monster full of lies, deceit, and against the people… did not we let it get that way? And why do we not set it straight again? Why is it acceptable to complain, argue, and create disorder… but not to fix the problems?

3) If business and society are not based on reason and logic… what are they based on?

…by an old collectivist trick which goes like this: there is no absolute freedom anyway, since you are not free to murder; society limits your freedom when it does not permit you to kill; therefore, society holds the right to limit your freedom in any manner it sees fit; therefore, drop the illusion of freedom–freedom is whatever society decides it is.

It is not society, nor any social right, that forbids you to kill–but the inalienable individual right of another man to live. This is not a ‘compromise’ between two rights–but a line of division that preserves both rights untouched. The division is not derived from an edict of society–but from your own inalienable right. The definition of this limit is not set arbitrarily by society–but is implicit in the definition of your own right.

Within the sphere of your own rights, your freedom is absolute.”

-Ayn Rand

Are you afraid?

Do you ever hear that odd clicking sound on your phone?

Is a non-descript car following you sometimes?

Do you sometimes receive packages you did not expect or aren’t yours?

. . .

Is this any reason to be paranoid?!

It is very, very important to be careful. It is very important you protect your information and yourself. 75,000 people, reportedly, have their identity “stolen” each year, used for fraud and money scams. Don’t let that be you.

But, sorry to say, the government is NOT out to get you. And, if I am wrong, and they are, I doubt there is much you can do about it. Where the real problem and worry should lay is where ii it going? Today’s Weekly Picks are some Government Paranoia/Government Total Control material. I HIGHLY suggest you read them. Not only are they entertaining, but they are, sadly, possible. And we may be going there. We take our freedom and rights for granted so much, or the verse, we seek to so adamantly defend them that we in turn lose them.

Government regulation has become a joke. The government is, as I said in another rant, a government’s sole duty is to protect each individual citizen’s rights. Nothing more. A government should not be telling people what they can do (minus those actions that would harm another’s right to pursue happiness), or what scientist is right, or what drugs you can or cannot use. (In fact, they should be more worried about the damn roads than what drugs someone is doing … and those who know me, know I am not a drug user, so this is not a pro-drug argument… merely the truth.)

People who are paranoid about government invasion have a good point, but in the respect that things can get very bad if we let them. Instead of solving our own problems and treating people on equal grounds, we cry to mommy government or sue through daddy court. Please.

Grow up and try to take some personal accountability. Judge by merit and be judged by merit. Alone.