Even the strongest person, will, at some point, need someone to harbor over them like a twisted aunt. Perhaps because of sickness, or a hard day, or something. It is nice to occasionally have someone rub your back, fix a meal, and snuggle and watch a movie with… all while you sit and veggitate.
And it’s not shamelfull to ASK for this.
It is kind of sad that generally, though, one of two things happen in relationships. Either one person expects to ALWAYS be pampered (and generally doesn’t communicate it), or doesn’t let their partner know when it’s pamper time, and they get all frustrated and upset.
Both of these are affected by communication. The former is generally a lack of understanding of the relationship and the boundaries, and the latter is, obviously, from just lack of saying what you would like.
There is this horrid misconception, especially with relationships, that you can’t actually say what you want. Because, there is fear in relationships (that generally comes from a lack of communication), or there is the possability that you might not get what you want (oh no! The horror), or there is the intent to not lay a burden on your partner… or whatever.
I know I’ve rambled quite a bit today, but today was a “pamper me” day, and I didn’t really have anyone to pamper me. And so, I want all of you that DO to not be afraid to get it when you need it.