“You break my back, you won’t break me…
All is black, but I still see…”
-KMFDM “Anarchy”
“I don’t fear the life I want to live,
I don’t fear the nothing I have to see.”
-Atari Teenage Riot “The Future Of War”
“We come into the world and take our chances
Fate is just the weight of circumstances
That’s the way that lady luck dances
Roll the bones…”
-Rush “Roll The Bones”
“Latetly I’ve come to see the solution, and it begins with me…”
-Bad Religion “My poor friend me”
There are a lot of things in our life that we cannot control. It is even worse when that lack of control is due to another person. It is yet worse when that lack of control is somewhat self imposed.
It is necessary at times to put ourselves in these types of situations. What can happen, though, is that we can begin to wallow in the lack of control and lack of happiness that comes with these relationships. We begin to think that we have no choices, no actions, and no hope. There is a misery that wells up inside, begging to be let loose, because ultimately we know the worse part… something long the lines of “If I want to live a decent life for the time being, I have to…”
And why should we have to do anything that makes us unhappy?
Well, we don’t, but there are times when it is the best option. And that option does not come without something very important… and many people tend to forget that fact. Unless you willing let them, no one person can control who you are. Your thoughts, your feelings, your values are all your own. And, ultimately, no one can take them from you. No one can affect your goals, your dreams, and your passions… if you strive for them.
If you have taken a route that is necessary to your situation, never forget that you are doing it for something else. You are striving for something, not just to wallow. If you don’t know what that something is, perhaps it is time to start looking. Your happiness is at stake.
The things you cannot control do not have to control you. Many people believe that to be controlled is to not be happy. And, to much an extent, this is true. But if you are a person, and if you use your tools at hand (your mind, your reason, your SELF) you will at least have that. What is important is that you do live.
Happiness is not simply a moment of pleasure. Nor the simple comfort of safety. Nor being able to choose when you can go out. These are all things that, in the end, make a big difference and are things we, as rational beings, should strive for… but, we will not always have those choices and freedoms. Or, at the least, we will inhibit ourselves with them. If you make a decision that inhibits your freedom, understand everything that comes with that agreement or decision… and then live your best under the confines.
You do not have to stop living, stop growing, stop achieving your goals because of these types of events. You’ve got one life to live, you’re future is today, and it’s time to live that future.
Let’s do it.
“Dovie’andi se tovya sagain…”