Posted by Isaac | Posted in Life, Relationships | Posted on 12-05-2001
Tags: goals
So, I wus sittin’ ‘ere and I wus wunderin’ to m’self… wut is it.. right.. this ‘ere hankerin’ ta go out and get yerself in all kind trouble.. right..
A prosperous warning to those who would live their lives for others. Those decisions in which we make, we must make with the understanding that the benfitting party must always include… ourselves. To make a decision otherwise, is nothing short of inane. Yes, inane. (I must include at this moment that I am speaking my words aloud, and focusing more on saying them than writing them, so you have been warned… okay..okay.. so I like the sound of my voice. Anyways.)
Back to what I was saying. Or at least, starting to say.
I was having a conversation the other day with a good friend.. and we were talking about relationships, love, and moving. You see, many of our friends from the old days have gone. They have moved up, on, and away. And this was somewhat saddening.. but, in putting in perspective, they have moved on to what they want and this is a good thing.
One person in particular we talked about moved to Chicago to be with his fiancee’. He had met her over the internet (and, that would be something I do not disagee with, as it were, as many might) … he visited her … and then he moved there. And I had made the comment that I did not know if that had been a good decision, because he had to worry about his life and his goals and not about a relationship. And my friend said to me, “Yeah, but he’s following his dreams and is happy. You can’t dispute that.” And, truly, I can’t. My mind has been changed and I fully support it, because most of us don’t have the balls to do it.
Another time, though, I was talking with a friend who lives on the east coast. She moved away from her boyfriend to go to college. He had made the offer to move with her, but she felt that he could not and should not give up his life just to be with her. He had to pursue his goals and dreams and not forfeit those for being with her. I know it caused them a lot of difficulties, but it was a decision that, so far, looks to be correct and beneficial.
Just thoughts. Thoughts. I’ve been thinking a lot about this the last day or two.. and so I’d like to offer my thoughts. You have to know yourself. You have to understand your dreams and your goals. And you have to reach for them. Also, though, there are times when you meet people who will help you with your dreams and your goals.. people worth being with. People who you never dreamed you could feel so close with.
If you are put in a position to make a decision to move afar to be with someone… make sure it is for the right reasons. Make sure you want it. Make sure you are ready. You need to think about your future. Don’t give up who you are and who you want to be, just to be with someone. If the move is going to sacrifice plans for your future, it is not worth it. However, if you can get your future and someone to share with it, do it. Do it now.
