Uncouth PerspectivesNot on the rug, man.

Be honest.  Say what you feel.  Do not hold back.

Never open. Never true. Never feeling.

When are we going to stop? Why is this even necessary?

Stop.

Let’s start over.

How about a compliment? How about trying to say what you really mean?

“You know, that really doesn’t suit you.”

“You are a really good person…”

“I’m really infatuated with you.”

But, alas, no. We fail to tell the people who we care about the most what we really feel. Or for that matter, people we hardly know. I was talking with Seana again last night. We were talking about friendship and how a true friend will tell you when some type of clothing does not look good on you. And vice versa.

And never a compliment for people. We expect good and anticipate the worst. Unless something is fantastic, we never say so. If something is good, or even great, we just go “oh, okay, that is how it is supposed to be.” Not a “hey, that’s really cool” or “good job!” or “you look great.”

And, forget talking about relationships. So many people get infatuated (and let’s call it what it really is…not love or whatever) with a lot of people, but never say anything. They sit, paralyzed in fear, suspense, self hate, or even bound by rules, and never say anything. They sit and seethe with animosity towards themselves and others… and are never happy. What about fear of rejection you ask me? Perhaps if you are infatuated with the wrong people, you need rejection. It might just put you on the right path.

It all comes down to a couple of things I harp about. You have to have self worth to be able to truly appreciate other people and what they have to offer.

You have to be able to communicate. Say what you want and maybe you will get it.

I hate being stood up. There are very few things I hate more in human relations. And I’m not talking about a date type scenario. I’m talking about two or more friends/associates/whatever meeting at a specific time and a specific place. Being stood up is when one or more people do not show up at the arranged time or place due to controllable circumstances without communication.

I was supposed to go to Knott’s Berry Farm today with my friend and coworker. We had planned on meeting at my store at 2:45 pm and leave at 3. Normally I get off at 6, so I made special arrangements to leave early. To be safe, I tried to call her cell phone at 11:30 am. No answer. I called again at 1:30. No answer. Again at 2:30. No answer. I called before I left for home at 3. I left a message every time.

I get home and find out that the phone has been disconnected by the phone company. I expect because the bill was not paid. Why was it not paid? Don’t ask me, my roommates pays all of the bills, I merely give her the money. Hmmmm.

My other roommate delivers a note for me, left by the person I was supposed to go to Knott’s with, after I got back from going out and watching the movie 3000 Miles to Graceland (don’t get me started on that one!) with Travis. She was having white streaks put in her hair. She also did not try to call me until after 4pm.

Here is the point to all of this… it’s a little misused and misunderstood word called COMMUNICATION. I’m going to give you a little secret to human relations that will make a lot of things clear and easy:

Communication is not a lie.

Yes, it’s true. If you communicate, people will listen. More importantly, we can all work together.

You see, if she had called in the morning and said “Hey, Isaac, I am getting my hair done today and it might run a little over…” that would have been a different story. If she had called with any sort of a warning. But, no, instead I get to sit and wonder what is going on. And this mess with the phone getting disconnected. Phone’s do not get magically turned off. And they do not get turned off without warning. If the bill is not getting paid, if something is wrong, I thing I should be entitled to know about it. Even a “Hey, the phone company said they are turning off the phone in two days…” No matter what the reason. If the bill did not get paid, I’m not going to get upset. Not in the least. Let’s just get it paid. Now, having the phone get shut off. That upsets me greatly. I use the phone quite a bit and it is not okay for me to be in the dark about something like that.

I suppose I am more “venting” than “ranting” and more “babbling” than “speaking” but communication is very important. The small stuff is very important. Meeting your commitments is very important. I understand that people make mistakes. Things get misscheduled, bills do not get paid, whatever, y’know? Just let me know. And I’ll do the same.